How Long Do Narcissistic Stalking Last?

Stalking is a serious form of Narcissistic Abuse. If you think stalkers do not exist or are not abusing targets on an everyday basis or that the people being stalked are “asking for it” or somehow responsible, keep your mouth shut you are wrong. Not simply morally wrong, simply (per se).

Narcissistic relationships frequently do not last very long, as the narcissist gets bored if they believe they have “won.” Six months are sometimes all a narcissistic can handle in a relationship, as they begin to require more intense adoration, the type the normally achieve at the beginning of a relationship.

If the victim ‘discards’ the narcissist first, he or she upsets the power dynamic that bolsters the abuser’s desire for power and validation. Remember: even if you left the relationship for legitimate reasons – such as for your own emotional and physical safety, your abuser still views the relationship as a competition.

The narcissist final discard occurs when they finally have squeezed every last ounce of joy and self-worth from you. They’ve grown bored of the relationship and you serve no further purpose.

How long do narcissists last?

Narcissistic relationships frequently do not last very long, as the narcissist gets bored if they believe they have “won.”. Six months are sometimes all a narcissistic can handle in a relationship, as they begin to require more intense adoration, the type the normally achieve at the beginning of a relationship.

To heal from narcissistic abuse, the victim needs to learn, through a mental health professional or from one of the many online courses out there, such as Understanding Narcissism on how to set boundaries, how to take their life back, and how to move on and move forward.

The suspected abuse victim feels the need to prove they are still a good person. They most likely are being manipulated into thinking they are not a good person, and their mind is slowly reprogramming itself into believing they are the bad guy in the relationship.

The abuser wears down the victim gradually so that the he/she doesn’t realize what is happening. The abuser’s actions and words don’t match. Their actions may be abusive, but they will talk as if they are innocent and blameless. Not only does the abuser act terribly, they confuse their victim by giving praise.

See, the narcissist, with their low self-esteem, has a need. A need to be boosted up and worshipped. And what better way to be worshipped than to manipulate an innocent person into believing their manipulative partner is perfect. The narcissist will do anything to have their ego stroked.

Narcissists deploy the tactic of gaslighting to gain power over their victim. Per Merriam-Webster Dictionary, gaslighting is an “attempt to make (someone) believe that he or she is going insane (as by subjecting that person to a series of experiences that have no rational explanation).”.

That’s how the narcissist works. They tear a person down, isolate them from their support system, and make them doubt their own mind. A narcissist can make their partner feel depressed and anxious and even cause them to experience suicidal ideation.

What happens when a narcissist ignores it?

If this crude mechanism of cognitive dissonance fails, the narcissist resorts to denial and repression of the humiliating material. He ‘forgets’ all about it, gets it out of his mind and, when reminded of it, denies it.

Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed aggression, envy and hatred. They firmly believe that everyone else is precisely like them. As a result, they are paranoid, suspicious, scared, labile, and unpredictable. Frightening the narcissist is a powerful behaviour modification tool. If sufficiently deterred – the narcissist promptly disengages, gives up everything he fought for and sometimes makes amends.

The narcissist takes these signs of personal autonomy to be harbinger of impending separation and reacts with anxiety. The narcissist is a living emotional pendulum. If he gets too close to someone emotionally, if he becomes intimate with someone, he fears ultimate and inevitable abandonment.

Another way to neutralize the narcissist is to offer him continued Narcissistic Supply until the war is over and won by you. Dazzled by the drug of Narcissistic Supply, the narcissist immediately becomes docile and tamed, forgets his vindictiveness and triumphantly re-possesses his “property” and “territory”.

He lowers his profile thoroughly in the hope of avoiding hurt and pain. Many narcissists have been known to disown and abandon their whole life in response to a well-focused (and impeccably legal) campaign by their victims.

One should drop cryptic hints that there are mysterious witnesses to the events and recently revealed evidence. The narcissist has a very vivid imagination. Most of the drama takes place in the paranoid mind of the narcissist. His imagination runs amok.

How many stalking victims knew their offender?

Nearly 3 in 4 stalking victims knew their offender in some capacity. Often Stalking isn’t taken seriously. In conjunction with NSS, the University of Leicester has been conducting an ongoing, international survey of stalking. They report:

Stalking is a serious form of Narcissistic Abuse. If you think stalkers do not exist or are not abusing targets on an everyday basis or that the people being stalked are “asking for it” or somehow responsible, keep your mouth shut… you are wrong. Not simply morally wrong, simply (per se).